In an age of rigid convention and social expectation, two remarkable women from Kilkenny made a choice that defied all norms, to live a life of their own making, together.
Lady Eleanor Butler of Kilkenny Castle and Sarah Ponsonby of Woodstock, County Kilkenny, became known as The Ladies of Llangollen, a name that continues to resonate across centuries. Their story is one of courage, intellect, and enduring devotion, and it all began here in Kilkenny.
A Bold Departure
Born in 1739, Lady Eleanor Butler was the youngest daughter of Walter Butler, the 16th de jure Earl of Ormonde and Lady Eleanor Butler. Raised at Kilkenny Castle, she was known for her sharp intellect, satirical wit, and deep love of books, a combination that made her both admired and unconventional. By the age of 39, she was considered a spinster by the standards of her time.
Sarah Ponsonby, born in 1755, belonged to the influential Ponsonby family of Woodstock. The two women met in 1768 and quickly formed an extraordinary bond. Faced with mounting pressure, Eleanor was to enter a convent, and Sarah to marry, they chose instead to forge their own path. In 1778, they fled Ireland together in search of a life that would grant them both freedom and dignity.
Life at Plas Newydd
They moved to Plas Newydd in Llangollen, Wales. Their new home became a sanctuary not just for themselves but for many artists, writers, and thinkers of the age. The cottage, decorated with Gothic details and surrounded by beautiful gardens, reflected their shared aesthetic and spirit. They spent five decades together, immersed in literature, gardening, and philanthropy, welcoming admirers like William Wordsworth, Lord Byron, and the Duke of Wellington.
Their devotion remained unwavering until the end. Eleanor died in 1829, and Sarah followed in 1831. They were laid to rest side by side at St. Collen’s Church, Llangollen, their story long outliving them interpreted by some as a romantic friendship, by others as a pioneering same-sex relationship. Regardless of interpretation, their unwavering commitment remains an enduring symbol of love and defiance.
An Evening to Celebrate the Ladies of Llangollen
Saturday, 15th November at 7pm | Butler House, Kilkenny
Join us for a very special event at Butler House to explore the legacy of this extraordinary love story.
Enjoy an evening of history, conversation, and reflection as we celebrate one of Ireland’s most captivating love stories, the story of Lady Eleanor Butler and Sarah Ponsonby brought to life through film, discussion, and storytelling in the elegant surroundings of Butler House.
- A special screening of The Ladies of Llangollen, an episode from TG4’s acclaimed documentary series Scéalta Grá na hÉireann, followed by a conversation with filmmaker Patrick O’Shea.
- An engaging talk by Dr Anthony Delaney, Kilkenny-born historian, podcaster, and author of Queer Georgians, returning from his UK book tour to share insights from his exploration of “the hidden history of lovers, lawbreakers and homemakers”, including a chapter dedicated to Lady Eleanor Butler and Sarah Ponsonby.
- Hosted by Aoife Rowantree of The Book Centre, Kilkenny.
This is a free event, but booking is advised as seating is limited. To reserve your place, please contact events@butler.ie or call 086 145 2928.
Step Into a Living Legacy
Today, Butler House, the Dower House of Kilkenny Castle is a beautifully restored guest house where history and hospitality meet. Guests can stay in rooms steeped in Georgian elegance such as The Lady Eleanor Suite, dine in the Lady Eleanor Restaurant, and enjoy Afternoon Tea or Cream Tea while taking in views of the walled garden and Kilkenny Castle, just steps from the very place Lady Eleanor once called home.
Whether you're attending this event or exploring Kilkenny’s rich cultural legacy, Butler House offers a place to pause, reflect, and connect with stories that shaped Ireland, including one of its greatest love stories.
Be part of this unforgettable evening and honour the life, love, and legacy of the Ladies of Llangollen, where it all began.
For more info, contact us on +353 56 7722828 or email res@butler.ie